Well 2016… what can we say? You’ve been a mighty big rollercoaster for many in their own microsystem, but an even bigger rollercoaster on the world stage. So many talented people gone, so much upheaval in world politics, so much unnecessary destruction…
For me, I can’t say it was all bad. 2016 created some momentous learning opportunities, lots of realisations, some heartfelt losses and the understanding of true friendship. The essence of great friendship is what 2016 will mean to me. My friends have been there for me more than any other year this year – through good and bad. I had shared some amazing times with some beautiful people who have made me truly happy. Always there to laugh, sing, cry, hug, confide in and be silly.
I guess my biggest learning curve throughout 2016 was how much I learnt about myself. The more I learnt about myself, the more I accepted myself, therefore my friends accepted me more because I was fighting less with myself.
So what’s in store for Suzy J Brown in 2017?
Well I will kick the year off with the Fresh New Suzy! My new blog ‘Single, Sassy and 40-Something’ – giving us 40-somethings some positive insights into being a better you, by learning from others, appreciating the simple things in life, and letting go of all the angst inside to bring out the light in you. I will interview different women who are inspiring, uplifting and understanding of the varying roles women need to play today to be successful in the various worlds we live.
One piece of food for thought that I would like you to think about is how 2016 and the years prior have moulded this current generation. This YouTube video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HK97VG-m3W0 gives us some profound insight into how we do things and how we have impacted social media and the sense of entitlement onto our kids. I plan to make some of the subtle changes it suggests to improve my kid’s lives, because I know my job is to prepare them for the big bad world, and they are getting closer to becoming independent and deep into it.
So, so long 2016, welcome 2017, and I look forward to providing some fabulous ideas and inspiration, warmth and friendly banter into your lives, and hopefully a new novel.
I am excited to announce that I will be attending the London Book Fair at Olympia between April 14 – April 17, 2015. It’s a fabulous networking opportunity and ways to learn how to become a better author and better marketer in the wonderful world of publishing.
I will be bringing copies of my book ‘On the Road to the Best Orgasm Ever’ with me, and my book will be displayed at the Authors Solution stand, so look out for it!
See you then!
After the successful launch of ‘On the Road to the Best Orgasm Ever’, I’ve been secretly working away on my first non-fiction book. So far, it is untitled (which is unusual for me!), but it’s a compilation of blogs, stories, information and photos of the trip we took to Europe last year. Essentially it’s a guide to how to travel well spending it up some days but tightening the purse strings others, all as a single parent, and without a travel agent!
It’s actually quite interesting to see the price differences (some are dramatic, others are tame) in less that two years of the same accommodation and the same activities, however with the changing currencies and taxes.
Anyway, this book will only be available on eBook as a travel companion for single parents thinking about giving their kids the dream holiday before they get too old and it becomes too expensive!
Meg Ryan faked one in When Harry Met Sally… and it’s known as one of the most memorable scenes in modern cinema. Monica (Courtney Cox) counted through the erogenous zones to fake one when showing Chandler (Matthew Perry) how to make love to a woman properly in the hit show ‘Friends’… so why is there a stigma behind ‘Orgasm’ in the title of my book? A lot of book reviewers or book bloggers are passing it up because of the ‘scary’ title and even iTunes is making me categories it as ‘erotica’ because of the title… when in reality, whilst there is some ‘erotica’ in it, it’s not dictating the story line.
I see ‘On the Road to the Best Orgasm Ever’ as being ‘contemporary women’s fiction’ – it’s a mixture of romance, adventure, erotica and inspiration. There really isn’t a current genre that fits it. Maybe we should make it up! ‘Desirable Lifestyle’, ‘Going Against the Norm,’ ‘Daring to Change,’ ‘Fictional Growth,’ ‘Inspirational Fictional Journeys’… I don’t know, but what I’m trying to say is that IT’S DIFFERENT! MIND-CHANGING! and THOUGHT-PROVOKING!
Whilst many people are buying it, and for those, I thank you, the feedback I’ve been getting is that they see it as some type of ‘how to’ book and feel that they know everything they need to know when it comes to sex, so they don’t need to buy the book because they feel it’s explaining some raw revealing way to make your body explode! And guess what? That’s the secret… you need to read it to find out, but at the same time, it’s a NOVEL not a ‘how to’ book.
As we approach the middle of the 2010s, you would think that human nature has evolved to a point that ‘orgasm’ is a natural, acceptable word to use in the English language… that there isn’t taboos and innocent laughter behind it like 9th grade girls secretly talking about what their boyfriends do to them that makes them feel good.
So in saying that… the book creates those ‘feel good feelings’ as part of the journey. It opens your eyes to different ideas that go against the conventional, but also awakens your soul. AND IT’S STILL A NOVEL!!
“On the Road to the Best Orgasm Ever” is available now as an eBook on Amazon http://www.amazon.com/Road-Best-Orgasm-Ever-ebook/dp/B00PF3KGXI/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1417914718&sr=8-1&keywords=on+the+road+to+the+best+orgasm+ever and iTunes via your own iTunes account.
Throughout the launch over the last 24 hours, whilst it’s great to see so many people buying my book, there seems to be some concerns and misconceptions that I’ve been seeing on social media about the title that I would like to clear up…
1. It is NOT a ‘how to’ book! Whilst there is some erotica in the book, it’s not ‘how to get the best orgasm ever’ – it’s one woman’s journey of self-discovery where ‘orgasm’ is a metaphor for ‘happiness.’ It’s a story, a novel, a casual read for the holidays filled with adventure, love, loss, family, lovers and emotion.
2. Whilst there is some controversy in the title and possibly in some of the scenes and scenarios, the book is written as all fiction novels are written, as a means to escape your reality and enter into another world that you might fantasise about or never dream about. It will open your eyes… as it did for Sarah, the main character.
3. Don’t take my word for it… read the reviews!! Those who have reviewed it, have loved it and giving it 4 and 5 stars!! They too thought what everyone else thought it would be as some ‘how to book,’ but they were pleasantly surprised by the twists and turns, the layers of emotional and development of Sarah, and some even recognised themselves in the emotional journey Sarah goes on.
If you have any questions, I’ll be happy to answer them in the comments section below, or via Facebook (Suzy J. Brown) or Twitter (suzyjbrown).
I had my first speech about my book last week. It went really well. I was almost going to be a no show, because at 3pm I was hugging the porcelain after an attempt of a detox diet and I was feeling worse for wear. But with a small bowl of steamed rice to reduce the gurgling, I made it to my inaugural speech about my exciting new book.
I had a very interesting audience to deliver my speech to. Some very conservative, some very liberal and many in between. The emcee blushed at the title, and most were unsure of what exactly would be presented and it was good to keep them guessing.
I put my speech notes on the lectern and with a touch of nerves, I started my speech. I handed them all a little publicity handout with a picture of the front cover of the book, the bonnet of a red convertible Mustang driving through the open roads and the barren landscape of New Mexico, with some details about where to get my epic book. I had rehearsed my speech, with and without notes, but I am an ummer and ahher, so I needed to prompt myself on the information I actual knew, but more to keep it all in order.
I told my smaller than normal audience, that I have included inspirational speeches from some amazing citizens of this world at the beginning of each chapter, just to set the tone of who each chapter will unfold. And I gave them a brief overview about the plot of the story. I also told them, that there is a lot of me in the book, but I will never tell which parts are fictional and which parts are not, that is for YOU to decide.
The feedback after my speech was extremely positive. Those who were too scared to buy the book because of the risque title decided that they actually will buy the book because it sounds so amazing. And that’s where I come to the ‘one word.’ORGASM. Yes it’s confrontational, yes it conjures up the meaning of sex, but think beyond it and understand that sex is a natural part of human existence, and whilst there is some erotic scenes in the book, there is so much more about an underlying journey of trying to find happiness in one life.
Don’t forget, “On the Road to the Best Orgasm Ever” comes out on December 4, 2014 on Amazon and iTunes as an eBook. You can reserve your copy now, and as an eBook, it’s so much easier to read it discreetly in the privacy of wherever you want to be.
Just thought I would let you know about some of the exciting going-ons in the world of Suzy J Brown. Yesterday (or today… depending on which country you’re in), we launched the pre-orders of “On the Road to the Best Orgasm Ever” on iTunes and Amazon. So far we’ve had a terrific response, and I am literally overwhelmed by the number of people eager to snap up their eBook copy of the book. We’ve had some readers put their hands up to give the book a review in the next week or so – just in time for the actual book launch – so stay tuned for more reviews, more excitement and more opportunities to either get more free chapters or actually win your own copy of the book.
So, talking about competitions… there is a competition on Facebook and Twitter that started this morning Melbourne time. Essentially, if you like or comment why you want to win on Facebook, or favourite it on Twitter and you’re in the draw! Competition ends December 3, 2014.
We are also having an exclusive opportunity for those who have signed up on the mailing list to get more chapters for free. So get on board before you miss out!
On Monday, I will be giving my first public speech about the book, which is both exciting and terrifying at the same time. I’ve been told the crowd is a little bit diverse, but I’m hoping that even the men have friends, wives, girlfriends or sisters who can relate to Sarah’s journey and swing them a copy for Christmas.
For those who haven’t cottoned on to the eBook revolution, you may be wondering why we haven’t released it yet as a printed book… Because of the title – which is a touch risqué, some more conservative readers are more interested in reading it discreetly on their iPad, tablet, iPhone or even laptop. They don’t want their kids asking questions their not prepared to answer. However, don’t worry – because we are currently getting quotes from printers to create a printed version… and hopefully in the New Year, you’ll be able to buy your printed version from our website and some independent book stores.
If you have any requests on where you would like to be able to buy your version of ‘On the Road to the Best Orgasm Ever’ please write a comment below, or send a private message. Don’t forget to sign up to our mailing list for exclusive offers on the home page of www.suzyjbrown.com and I look forward to taking an amazing journey with you.
With warmest regards and appreciation,
I’m so excited to reveal the new Suzy J Brown website. There are going to be so many amazing new things happening over the coming months. If you want to be part of the action, you need to join our mailing list so we can give you updates about freebies, YouTube videos and insights into the up and coming novel “On the Road to the Best Orgasm Ever.” I want you to get to know Sarah on a very personal level… Sarah is the main character of “On the Road to the Best Orgasm Ever” and she is very revealing, but also very vulnerable, yet has the courage to do so much so many people are afraid to do. She is truly inspiring!
So stay tuned for more regular updates, sneak-peeks and events that will keep you on the edge of your seat…. but you have to sign up on the mailing list on our home page to take advantage of it all.
And don’t forget to read my blog “Sex and the Single Mum” – they are now being categorised so it’s easy to look up past blogs for insights on any family and relationship concerns or travel and adventure ideas. To me, writing is about building relationships and listening to the beauty in people’s voices. Everyone has a story to tell, no matter how hard it is to tell it, or how hard it is to let it go to create a better life for yourself. I want to help you realise your dreams, give you motivation and help you be the best person you can be – for yourself and your family. I believe, we are on this journey together, and together we will make it happen.
Love and peace,
I’m really getting into the tail end of my third draft of my book ‘On the Road to the Best Orgasm Ever’ at the moment and I’ve come to a point where my protagonist is questioning what ‘love’ is. She always felt she never had it as she grew up in her family, she thought she found it when she found someone to marry her, but really, all she was doing was transferring the love she wanted from her parents to someone who gave her the love she thought she wanted from them yet it still didn’t feel right, and then she found someone she felt immensely comfortable with but at the same time, felt comfortable in her own skin. She had learned to love herself by being with this person.
Everything is wonderful with this man… she felt so alive, so in tune with herself and everything about him made her feel like he was almost a male version of herself. Because of her background in love, she rarely offered those three little words to anyone unless she truly meant it, yet he offered them to all the people around him – work colleagues, old school mates, the kids he coached in soccer, his kids’ friends, anyone… something she couldn’t comprehend, something that made her question his love for her, because he offered his love so freely.
She questioned how he could love her when he has so much in his life that he can’t let go for her. She wonders if his love is conditional or unconditional, based on the fact she has ‘baggage’ in terms of having younger children. But then he sends her so many mixed signals by being there for her when she needed him, yet had moments where he wouldn’t be there at all.
So as you can see, her ‘idea’ of love and her ‘ideals’ of love are conflicted. Yes, she’s a romantic and feels this man is ‘the one’ yet she wants to be a priority in his life, but she doesn’t feel it. Does she give him the ultimatum and salvage any self-pride and dignity by demanding that she be his number one, or does she leave him, knowing she deserves so much more, even though she may never feel the love for someone, and herself again, as she did with him?
It’s a tricky one, as it’s about self-love as well as being loved by someone, and to accept self-love you generally need to feel that you are worthy of being loved and you can only feel worthy if someone is actually loving you for you, not the role that you provide them.
So that’s where I’m at. It will be interesting to see where I take it. I know in my head how it will end, and hope it’s what the publishers see in it to be published.