A real friendship…

Posted by in Relationships on August 27, 2012 0 comments

I have many friends who I cherish…. some friends support me in every decision that I make, some friends see the pain that I’m going through and try to give me advice on how to overcome the pain and get frustrated that I don’t take on their advice, but know that when I’m ready, I will take it on with all my heart and soul, and I have friends who just go with the flow…

But when the shoe is on the other foot, and I try with all my heart to be the friend that they need, some see that I will support them in whatever they choose, I will uplift them with some humour or take them out or even invite them over for a chat and a glass of wine. And then I have friends who just feel that I’m attacking their being because they are in denial of their own truth, when all I have is sincere concern for their well-being and happiness.

I will do anything, and I mean anything for my dearest friends. If they need a shoulder to cry on, if they need some spare dollars, if they need someone to look after their kids so they can have some needed time off, or if they need to realise the truth in their other friendships or family situations, I will be there for them. Admittedly, not many take up on my offer of physical or monetary help, as they know as a single mum, there isn’t much time that coincides with their time off, but the offer is always there…

I know that my friends don’t necessarily want a solution to their problems, and most just want to vent and get it off their chest, as I do to them, and in reality, that’s what a real friendship is, just being there for each other.

But some friends look for ulterior motives for the reason behind your help, advice and yearning to just be a friend… and that saddens me that they can’t see the genuine desire to just be a ‘friend’ for a friend in need. And unfortunately, it’s those friends who need as many friends as they can get. They have serious trust issues, and live in a cocoon, not wanting to let people into their intense hurts, trials and tribulations. Once they do let go, and let people in, they then realise how much they needed to off-load their concerns and pains and feel like a new person. But they will always only do it when they are ready… and you can never force a friend to come to realise their own reality.

But for all my friends who know that I am there for them, no matter what hurts you have given me, and what hurts I have said to you to make you stronger and understand your reality, please know that I always cherish our friendship as a true friendship, and I will always be there for you, as your friend… a friend forever….