So after yesterday’s rant, what I urge all single parents to do, no matter what, is make sure you have time for ‘you.’
Think about what makes you ‘you.’ It’s a hard question, because for so many years, you have been a wife, a partner, a mother and you’ve forgotten what’s important to ‘you.’ Everyone demands a piece of you and there is nothing left for you to remember the ‘real you.’ What is it that makes you truly happy? Is it shopping? Is it being one with nature? Is it lying on the couch with your favourite DVD wrapped in a blanket? It’s somehow trying to find even an hour a day to discover yourself again…
So what can you do to rekindle your spirit and bring back the self-confidence you once had when you were on the prowl pre-kids, pre-husband, pre-partner? Did music make you feel liberated? Did you feel comfortable in your own skin because you were a size 8-10, rather than the size 16-18 you are now? Don’t worry, I hear you, because I’ve been there and have almost made my way back.
Now I realise as a single parent, time and money won’t necessarily be on your side. So let’s work on the ‘free’ stuff first:
- Walking is both great exercise and helps you clear your head and give you energy. Create a walking or running routine that enables you to beat your personal best. Incorporate hills, staircases, block lengths, whatever it is to help you achieve your fitness goals.
- Window shopping can be just as rewarding as shopping. You can try things on, watch the latest trends, indulge in the joys of looking firsthand and knowing you can resist the purchase.
- Join a library if you love reading.
- Borrow DVDs from friends and family so you’re not watching the same movies (just make sure you return them).
- If you love writing, write a blog – test the waters to see if you can reach an audience for bigger and better things in the future.
- Buy a DVD to pursue mediation, do yoga or try your hand at pilates.
- Join a social club – if it’s a mother’s group, book club, walking group, fan club – just something to keep you talking to other people and not feeling alone in what you’re doing.