Why is it that once your divorced, separated, widowed or just down right single, all your ‘couple’ friends don’t seem to want to be around you? Is it because you’re drawn to other single parents, because you need to talk out all your problems and hardships, or is it because you maybe are a potential threat to the marriage of all your ‘coupled-up’ friends?
But it’s not just women it affects, it’s also men… I have many single mum friends, even single recently divorced friends with no kids, and all of them will say that the majority of their friends they see frequently will be single OR only see you without their partners.
In some ways, it is quite liberating being with your single friends, as you don’t have to deal with a nagging partner who wants to go home while your friend is enjoying herself, or a partner who embarrasses your friend with his daddy jokes or drunken stupidity, but in other ways, you’d wish you had someone to deal with the kid’s problems of being fed, toilet time or needing a change of clothes while you can let your hair down with your friends.
The other good thing about ‘single mum friends’ is that they too attract other single parents, and through their network, you can meet other ‘single dad friends’ and maybe just start something up.
So as we all can laugh about being desperate and dateless, or confide in each other about what we would normally confide in a partner about if we actually had one, it’s good to know that you can count on your ‘single mum friends’ no matter what.