I was listening to the radio this morning and there was a debate going about what’s more attractive – a woman in a stylish dress with the full make up, manicure, designer shoes and accessories, or a woman in a comfortable T-shirt, jeans and basic to no make-up. The overall majority of men calling in liked the T-shirt and jeans option.
So why do we do it? Why get dressed up, when more often than not, you will pick up someone genuine who sees you in your lazy Sunday afternoon wares pushing the trolley though the supermarket?
Do we do it for ourselves because we feel more confident when we have put the effort into our outward appearance, or does the glamour give us a fake confidence that is obvious to any potential beau? Ok, so there are reasons to get dressed up, no doubt – a gala event, charity ball, a day at the races, going to a nightclub and even on a romantic night out. But really, for someone to get to know you properly, won’t they want to see you in your natural environment doing what you naturally love – fish n chips on the beach, a casual walk along a boulevard eating your favourite ice-cream, chatting over the newspapers in a cafe for Sunday brunch. And let’s face it, when we generally get dressed up we end up off our face blubbering ‘I love yous’ to the taxi driver while our best friend’s holding up our hair so we can chunder out the window when that wave of stale alcohol churns over our stomach. No one wants to start a relationship like that…
So for all those single mums out there who are desperate to find a new mate, stop trying so hard. He’ll fall into your lap without you even knowing and when you least expect it. Be yourself and love will find your way.